No One is Born Gay (or Straight): Here Are 5 Reasons Why

God I love this so fucking much. Sorry it’s not pregnancy/baby related . . .but I have long said that I would (and maybe did) “choose” to be gay (or queer). Because being queer is AWESOME.

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1.  Just because an argument is politically strategic, does not make it true:  A couple of years ago, the Human Rights Campaign, arguably the country’s most powerful lesbian and gay organization, responded to politician Herman Cain’s assertion that being gay is a choice.  They asked their members to “Tell Herman Cain to get with the times! Being gay is not a choice!”  They reasoned that Cain’s remarks were “dangerous.”  Why?  “Because implying that homosexuality is a choice gives unwarranted credence to roundly disproven practices such as ‘conversion’ or ‘reparative’ therapy. The risks associated with attempts to consciously change one’s sexual orientation include depression, anxiety and self-destructive behavior.”

Image Cynthia Nixon (right) and wife Christine Marinoni (left)

The problem with such statements is that they infuse biological accounts with an obligatory and nearly coercive force, suggesting that anyone who describes homosexual desire…

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  1. Me too! I’ve always been afraid to say it aloud, because that narrative had been politically helpful, but i feel like it’s time to set that aside and embrace the truth that desire is fluid and often a choice. I definitely choose to be a lesbian, though.

  2. The authors logic and thought pattern are interesting. I would not agree that I chose lesbianism but I know others who would. They know it was a decision just as I “know” I didn’t consciously choose this attraction. That said, I would not deny my attraction and if I were given choice as a teen, I would have chose this anyway. Lol.

  3. This article put into words what I tried to and failed at so many times. I was married to a man for 5 years and never even thought about women. Then divorced and discovered that I could indeed love a woman equally and have a satisfying relationship. I chose that lifestyle over my previous one against my family’s and friends’ wishes. Love and sexuality is indeed fluid.

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